Wisdom from a Senior!!!

Here is a list of 45 items that a 90-year old senior provided. However, I am adding an item at the beginning because I am a Christian! Enjoy!

Gloria’s Wisdom – one two-fold item!!!
I am God’s so my one and only wisdom is:
to always put God first in life,
and love everyone He gives to you!!!!

WISDOM FROM A 90 YEAR OLD SENIOR!!!
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so
 here is the column once more:
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short – enjoy it.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are
sick. Your friends and family will.
5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. 
Stay true to yourself.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying 
alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with yourself. You can take it.
9. Save for things that matter.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up 
the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no
idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t 
be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter
weighs you down in many ways.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you 
stronger.
19. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to
 you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life,
 don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the
 fancy lingerie.
–  –  –  –  Don’t save it for a special occasion. 
Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear 
purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 
’In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive but don’t forget.
29. What other people think of you is none of your 
business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. People love you because of who you are, not because
of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it 
now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting 
everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw
 everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already
 have not what you need.
42. The best is yet to come …
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show 
up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

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Self

Self is a small word that covers so many areas of my life. As a small young child, I was not able to see/understand/desire more than what was my self wanting instant gratification with the words, “I want it!” As I grew up, I was encouraged to be more polite, to be expressing myself with more discretion so not to be offensive to anyone and even ask tactfully “May I have it?”

This “self” issue in me today is just as strong as it was when I was two years old, but the maturing process coupled with good parenting helped me to know that performance orientation is helpful in keeping friends and not making enemies. My performance of being nicer when I wanted something was encouraged and applauded by my parents. And so as an adult, I continue to test the waters and perform so as not to offend. The dangerous phrases that I try to not let have expression in my life go something like this:

I want it my way!
I want it to be my way!
I want what I want!
I want to be in control of all that is in my life!
I will prove that I am right!

When I am selfish, there is no room for God! When I am serving my “self” there is no place for God to be glorified.

But there is another richer layer of life that has happened to me. I chose to become a Christian, committed to knowing, loving and serving The Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. This commitment has changed me. I still struggle with “self” everyday but now I have God to help me.

The scripture that provides this truth is 2 Corinthians 12:9 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

I am learning/discovering that this business of self-centeredness can kill the divine life within me. If I let it, it can make me a prisoner, with spiritual emptiness and personal misery. This “self” is strong and can bring many negative responses of anger, self pitying, self seeking, indignant attitudes, resentfulness, depression, anxiety, bitterness, frustration, worry, dishonesty, and much unhappiness. I find it strange that the “self” wants what it wants but when it gets it, the “self” is not satisfied.

Often I sense my “self” wanting to justify my actions or words or thoughts. This is false pride taking control. I am learning that when I seek the Lord Jesus Christ with a humble heart and seek His help and healing, then I have opportunities to grow and want to become more.  He blesses/empowers me with a change in my mind: (Romans 12:2) Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will. Then after absorbing this truth, my thinking changes and my attitudes and motives change to becoming non-critical, non judgmental, non-condemning, and am able to have self acceptance, self affirmation, self esteem and I am without shame. I am learning that an attitude of gratitude helps me block the “self” from trying to gain ground again in my life. With gratitude comes an awareness of how much love God has poured out into my life and how much I appreciate His Love. I grow closer to Him and my heart desires to love Him more.

Today I make my choice. I choose God! His desires become my desires. I am slowly being transformed. I am in process. “Self” will always be with me as it is a part of my humanity, but my victory over self is not my own personal victory because God is the one who has equipped me for the battle. It is His victory! Glory to God!

 

Copyrighted © 2012 Gloria Winn, all rights reserved.

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Serving Others

As a Christian, I am a servant of the Lord. Part of my mission to know, love and serve God is to love others. Jesus revealed the type of service that He wants all of us to be ready to do. He showed us how during the experience of the Last Supper.

John 14:4, 5, 12-17

”….so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples’ feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.

When he had finished washing their feet, he put on his clothes and returned to his place. “Do you understand what I have done for you?” he asked them. “You call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord,’ and rightly so, for that is what I am. Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. Very truly I tell you, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him. Now that you know these things, you will be blessed if you do them.”

I have been asked the question “Who has served you?” When I sit with this question in my heart and listen, I am reminded of many, many people over the years who have served me. A few stand out more than others. One time stands out. When I was in depression because of a crib death and in a dark place, I was welcomed and prayed for by many special faith-filled people. They helped love me back to life so much that I wanted to love God with them. A few were chosen by God to serve me in a different way. They listened to me. They did not advise me, nor chastise me, or provide direction. They did not judge me. They opened their hearts and welcomed me, again and again. As I began to take up my life again, they pointed me to the Lord, the Healer.

I have also been asked “Who have you served?” I have served many but not as many as have served me. I am so grateful to God that His measuring stick is different from the world’s. When I have served from a wrong motive, that is my wanting approval from people, then there was no good fruit. When I have served because I believed that the Lord was asking me to do it for Him, then it changed everything. The fruits of the Holy Spirit were evident (love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control) to some degree. If my heart was right and motive correct, then those whom I served felt blessed by God.

And now I pass along the two questions that were asked of me. I struggled in my own answers. What are your answers to these questions?

Who has served you?

And

Who have you served?

Copyrighted © 2012 Gloria Winn, all rights reserved.

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New book TEARS

My new book TEARS is now available at Salem Storehouse, Merivale Road, Ottawa for $7.99 It is my story about healing from grieving for 18 years. It is also available on Amazon.com. It is also available on Amazon.ca and available as a soft cover and e-kindle version.

Check out my website gloriawinn.com and click on my three blogs: For His Glory, Small Things with Great Love, and Who Am I! God’s!

 

 

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Retreat Reflections on Logs and Clouds

Years ago I attended a country parish retreat near a small town and the visiting priest was a man of deep faith and enthusiasm.  After he gave us the first part of his morning presentation, he invited us to go outdoors and find a chair and to pray and reflect on the message of his presentation.

When I found a chair that was free and got myself set up with my bible and notebook, I tried to focus on his message. It seemed that my mind was all over the place and my ability to focus was weak. I tried not to get frustrated and asked God for help.

My eyes drifted over the horizon of that country church area and finally rested on a pile of old logs in the distance. The logs were very grey and weather beaten. I was trying to listen to God and my mind touched on the wonder of the logs. I questioned , “Who piled them and how long had they been there?” Then I heard that small voice within me say, “Your sins need to be confessed or they will get petrified just like those logs!” Wow, that message jolted me. I felt my stomach and throat tighten. I bowed my head and acknowledged that I do need to confess my sins. I am a weak person who usually puts this responsibility on my back burner. I sensed that my sins that are my blockages to hearing and loving the Lord with total abandon. I apologized to the Lord and promised that I would go and confess before I left the retreat today.

Peace filled me. I sat in wonderment at this profound stillness within me. I drank it in.

Then as I continued in my meditation, and began to look up to pray, I noticed the clouds in the vast blue sky. There were no trees nearby or any tall buildings in this country setting. My unobstructed view of the sky moved my heart as if it were an encouragement to come closer to God. There was nothing between God and I and I felt like I had touched the hem of his garment. Then a few clouds came by. These clouds moved quickly and then seemed to slow down; but there was continuous movement in the changing of shape and volume.

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I found myself entering into a fascination about the clouds. I asked my Lord about them. “Why did you show me the clouds?” I heard “Notice how the clouds are moved about by the winds and how they continuously change shape. They offer no resistance to the winds and they follow the direction that the winds choose. That is how I want you to be in your journey with Me. I want you to be flexible and changeable and adaptable, My child. As you journey with me, I want you to be available to go, to love and to embrace everyone who I put in your path. You are My child and I love you.”

I wanted to abandon myself and say “Yes” immediately. I withheld myself and rationalized that I am so weak and self-willed and I felt totally inadequate to be able to do what I heard. I find it hard to be quickly flexible and adaptable. I usually look for a good rationale before I act. I prayed and said to my Lord, “I am willing but I need your help to do this. Teach me Lord!”

It has been many years since that encounter with My Lord and He has been keeping me in training.  I believe that I have been in a “formation” discipline of my spirit. I have noticed that when I have surrendered my plans and desires, He fills me with peace that surpasses my understanding. I love living in His Peace. I am grateful.

Copyright © 2012 Gloria Winn

Cloud photograph is from FreeFoto.com

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Perfectionism

Perfectionism is a trap.

Our world tells us “If you are going to do anything, then you must do it well!” This sentence started it all for me. The road to becoming a perfectionist came into play when I was a child. I heard this in school and it contributed/helped to form my understanding that if I took on a task and did not have the goal for it to be done perfectly, then the job was worthless. This is a lie. The job still had value!

My parents were without understanding regarding my report card, which revealed my level of achievement at my studies. My father read my report card and then would comment to me, “You have 3 As and 3 Bs. You can do better! I want to see all the Bs become As.” As hard as I would try, I never met the mark. I was a top student in second place always. My father always challenged me to be first. It never happened even though I gave it my best shot.

This attitude of perfectionism developed in me and I have unknowingly passed it along to my children. One of my daughter-in-laws calls this action as a high level work ethic. And now my grandchildren are following it as well. It is good to try to do your best, but the motive is the problem.

Perfectionism has been a source of many negative thoughts and actions in me. Upon reflection I recognized that it pointed me to compare myself with others instead of accepting everyone as they are. Worry and anxiety began to be in my daily reflections and actions. I had impatience towards myself and others to “just get it done!” I found myself “shoulding” myself when I did not do a task as well as I envisioned I would do it. As a compensation tactic for my imperfection, I began to be critical of myself and others. Perfectionism has provided many blocks for me to grow and learn about new healthier ways for living.

This attitude came to me during my childhood and continued until I was surrendered to Jesus Christ! I needed some answers to combat the perfectionism that had taken the throne of my life. I need to do daily surrenders, just like receiving manna daily.

Peace of mind comes from accepting what we can do nothing about our imperfect humanity and taking responsibility for what we can.

Today and every day, I pray for the wisdom that helps me know the difference.

I have learned and am still learning to be patient with everyone, but above all with myself . . . not to be disappointed by my imperfections, but always look to Jesus for fresh courage.

When I am worried by my own shortcomings, I will not correct them. I will be come a navel gazer and not look “up” to hear my answers.

Love manifested as self-care and service is my beginning.

When I have criticized myself on the outside, it is usually caused by the way I feel inside. When I measure myself by my physical appearance, I will always feel let down. Today Lord let me accept myself as a lovely person, inside and out.

We are all children of God, and He does not have a “teacher’s pet” relationship with anyone of us. He loves and completely accepts us with all our weaknesses. May I always know that from the first moment I admitted I was powerlessness, God provided me with the power needed: His Power.

My benchmark for being perfect is from Matthew 5:48
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

1 John 4:18 speaks of fear being a block to being perfect.
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

2 Cor 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.

Psalm 18:30
As for God, his way is perfect:
The Lord’s word is flawless;
he shields all who take refuge in him.

So when I am powerless, it is good. I want God’s perfection, not my own, to be evident. He will provide the grace to reveal that His power is overcoming! When I am powerless and give Him room to work, the evidence is made clear. His perfect plan and will flow into me and my life. Glory to God!

My humanity is imperfect; it will never be made perfect. Only in the things of God, of the spiritual life, is there perfection in Jesus Christ! The spiritual act of loving with God’s power is the only area where there is perfection.

 When I have died to my sin of perfectionism, which is rooted in pride, then Christ’s victory and power reigns and I am changed and strengthened.  I have His Power when I am powerless.

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Mission

The articles and book(s) I have written and am writing are a witness of God’s grace and power in my life.

I believe that God wants every Christian to be ready in season and out of season to witness about Him.

May God be glorified by the messages in this website.

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